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Confessions of an ex-People Pleaser

Confessions of an ex-People Pleaser

I debated writing this on and off, but I realized this may be a call for freedom to some of you. For a long time I had this horrendous belief that being a good person and doing good meant that I needed to please other people in order to do that. That meant that if someone had a request or a need, I would fill it. I became the go-to girl for everything. 

Disclaimer: pleasing people is okay in moderation. Here’s what’s not okay: losing yourself and your needs in the middle of the chaos of being everything to everyone else. Not cool.

So throughout the process of becoming “perfect” to everyone else, I was missing out on things I enjoyed. I missed being myself and acting like myself without this made up mind game that I played with myself of being perfect all the time and doing and saying the right things.