“I want it to happen faster.”
“Are we there yet?”
“I wish this would happen now.”
We are rushing through life in a microwave society, where we can get information and connect faster than ever before. I have a friend who says that the technology we have today “accelerates what’s already in your heart.”
In other words, it can be a good or a bad thing. So if you’re impatient or insecure in certain areas – and let’s be real... we ALL are about something – constant access to people’s “highlight reels” of their life can accelerate those feelings.
Some of you may know that I’ve battled through and conquered a pretty severe anxiety disorder over my life, so hear me when I tell you that I know what it feels like to feel like you’re alone in how you feel. That somehow you’re weird for having problems or that everyone else has it easier than you in life.
It’s easy in this day and age to look online and think, “man, why me?” or, “Why, God, did you pick me to go through this hardship and give everyone else a perfect life?” Friends, hear me when I tell you... those thoughts are complete garbage. Throw them away. You’re better off without them.
Instead of wishing things were better, or thinking you’re the only one with problems, take a moment and open your eyes. There are hurting people all around you who need a smile or thoughtful friend to know that behind the, “I’m good,” or the, “I’m fine,” or the millions of pictures of their happy family, there is SOMETHING they are struggling with. There is something they are hoping and praying for. There’s a dream that hasn’t come true yet. Guess what... As I write this, so do I.
Stop wishing the journey was over and start learning from those valleys. Start embracing your shortcomings and know that one day you’re going to be a better version of yourself because you chose to let the struggle soften your heart to find someone else to inspire. The pain you experienced is now someone else’s power to get through their pain. The world is a better place because you were once broken.
I say this all the time: You have survived up until this point. Stop wishing the struggle wasn’t so real. Start living your life and look for the blessings in each day, from the time you made someone’s day by reaching out and listening to them, to the sun shining, to your family. If you’re not choosing to be happy now in the moment, guess what... You won’t be happy when this is over either.
Do you want to know what makes other people more successful than you? Those people have been bent and broken over their lives, and they chose to look at the purpose behind the pain. Maybe the reason you’re still stuck mentally in the same thing is because there are some areas of your life – past and present – that you need to have grace and forgive yourself and others. It’s not easy, but it will free you.
One last thing I want to leave you with is this: Romans 8:28 says “and we know that in ALL THINGS, God works for the GOOD of those who love him, who have been CALLED according to his purpose.” If you take one thing away today, let it be this:
This will not be the end of you... it’s just the beginning.
Caity Mets is an entrepreneur from Newton, NJ. She is a woman of God, a puppy mom to a cheagle named Pepper, a leader with It Works! Global, and is engaged to be married in 2015.