1. Plan your RSVP date to be closer to the time you send them out and make sure you give yourself at least three weeks before your wedding date. Let’s face it — I know it’s tough to believe, but although your event is the most important thing in your life, people are busy and they will forget to RSVP. It’s just the way it goes. Get this done early and out of the way so you aren’t stressing at the last minute.
2. Don’t sweat the small stuff. This was something I had to learn the hard way. Don’t be so caught up in every little detail that you become a monster to those around you. At the end of the day, what matters is a healthy and happy couple who ends up married at the end of it. The rest will be stuff you laugh about for the next lifetime. Learn to let things go. Breathe. It’s going to be okay.
3. Keep the perspective that no one cares about your day as much as you do. This was another tough one, but it’s true. You are going to care way more about everything that happens than anyone else, so do not expect people to be at that same level as you are. They love you and care about you and at the end of the day, that’s all that should matter.
4. DIY can be stress relieving, but only if you’re into that sort of thing. I am a creative person by nature. I love to make things, and I find it to be really relaxing. However, not everyone is wired that way. If you hate creating things that aren’t wedding related, hire someone else who DOES love doing it.
5. Seek vendors who you know and trust. This was a biggie. We have a lot of friends who we know do various things wedding-related, so do your homework! You want to make sure the people you’re working with for your big day are people who will take care and preserve what you would have in mind.
6. Delegate. Again, something I don’t do very well naturally. I like getting things done myself, but as a bride-to-be, this could be super stressful to you trying to be Wonder Woman. Ask for some help from a few people who you know will respect you and want to help. This made most of the last minute details super organized and helpful for us when the time came.
7. Use a poster board and tiny Post-Its for your seating. SERIOUSLY. It was so organized and easy. I had different colors for each category with different families, friends, coworkers, etc. It made the seating so much easier and we were able to move things around the board until they looked the way we thought that they should.
8. Be a good communicator: communication is key! Let other people know what’s going on so they have plenty of time to prepare where they need to be and when, as well as what is going on. If they don’t check emails, then don’t email them. Find out the best way of getting in touch with your few core people and use that delegation to get the word out to everyone else.
9. Take breaks. You heard me! Take BREAKS! Remember — you are not just preparing to be a bride, you are preparing to be someone’s wife. Make sure you’re making time to spend with each other, and also time for yourself. I find that journaling my feelings on paper as I prepare will be great in the future for when I want to look back at this time.
10. Lastly, don’t get so busy planning that you don’t enjoy it. This is not meant to be something you dread. It’s supposed to be the best part of your life. Know your limits. Know what you need to do and know when it needs to be done. Shoot to get things done early.
These are just a few things I’ve learned so far about being a bride to be. I hope they are something that helps you! Please pass this along to any future Mrs. in your life!
Caity Mets is an entrepreneur from Newton, NJ. She is a woman of God, a puppy mom to a cheagle named Pepper, a leader with It Works! Global, and is engaged to be married in 2015.