When we think about goal setting, that seems pretty easy, right? It doesn’t take too much thought to verbalize the things that we want or desire. It’s easy to say that you want to be able to afford your bills. It’s easy to desire a vacation with your family. I agree with the majority here and would say that when it comes to telling other people what we want, it’s something that can come almost effortlessly.
So why do most people put things out there as far as goals, but it takes longer for them to come to fruition for them? One word: fortitude. According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, fortitude is described as “strength of mind that enables a person to encounter danger or bear pain or adversity with courage.” Let’s take a minute to unpack that thought, shall we?
Anything worthwhile in this life isn’t going to come without trials. Even Jesus Himself said in John 16:33 that you WILL have trouble in this life. We all have times where life can smack us right in the face and try to get in our way. Things come up we didn’t see. Life happens.
We all have demanding schedules. Sometimes even good things can stand in the way from what we want. Sometimes there are jobs we have to go to in addition to what we’re doing in our home-based business. We all have families we love spending time with. It’s important to keep a balanced schedule and learn healthy boundaries of when to say yes and when to say no. Kami Dempsey said it best: “You can do anything, but you can’t do everything.” You have to know where to spend your time to get to where you want to go.
By now, you’re probably thinking, “Alright Caity, just tell us what we have to do.” First and foremost, it takes laser-like focus on what you want to get there. You need to delegate and work as a team with your family and your business partners. Don’t allow the “little foxes” to steal your focus when life gets hectic. Set a schedule and a routine for each season in your life and your business. Teamwork really does make the dream work.
Second, you have to feel deep down in your gut that this thing that you’re after is worth any setback that life throws at you. To stay accountable, keep a picture in front of you of who is counting on you. You have to CONSTANTLY be filling your mind with positive things to keep that focus and vision alive. For me, that means a weekly trip to my church with my family and spending time reading business- and personal-development books, all in addition to quiet time with my Bible. It also means posting pictures all throughout my house of what my focus is.
Yes, you may feel fearful at times, but you need to face it anyway. Plant your feet firmly in the ground and vow to yourself that no matter what obstacles and trials may come your way, you’re going to go through them gracefully and come out wiser and better than you were before. You are better off trying and failing than not trying at all. In that same verse I mentioned earlier, Jesus said, “I have told you these things so that in me you may have PEACE. In this world you may have trouble, but TAKE HEART! I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)
I like to call those tough times “refinement”. Why? Because look at everything you’ve survived up until this very moment in your life, and you are still here. You’re braver and wiser than you were before. You’ve learned something along the way. You’re still standing. Take quitting and fear off the table for a moment of whatever it is you’re facing. You are a successful overcomer, and with fortitude and FAITH, you will have everything you set your mind to. Be brave. Be bold. Have courage. You’re going to get there.